Marriage Reconciliation Prayers

[tgreane]

I'm new to this site, but I'm active in requesting prayers and praying for other's needs on other sites, especially regarding hurting marriages and people seeking His help in restoring their marriages in His way.  To simplify things a bit and give a little background on what I'm requesting prayers for and show praise for what He has done this week alone I'm going to paste what I sent to another site.  Please don't be insulted, it all comes from my heart, but takes a while to type out each time.  Thanks.

 hope this isn't too long, but here is a new prayer request as well as a testimonial on what the prayers have done for my marital situation so far.  Nothing short of miraculous even though I still haven't spoke directly with my wife since July 11th.  Only through God would any of this be possible.  All I can say to anyone who reads this is don't give up because He never does.  I know my wife has given up on our marriage, but I haven't and I haven't given up on her.  And I know God hasn't either.  He's working on her heart in strange ways that I see and I'm sure many others I can't see.  That is the basis of my faith, those wonderful unseen things.
 
First, my newest request that I urgently need prayers on:
 
I posted an answered prayer from my court date earlier this week.  Thank you all so much, I know it was a result of all the prayers over it.  I'm not there yet though, but I could see clearly yesterday that my wife SueEllen is nearing the point of brokenness that I reached 10 weeks ago.  I turned it all over to the Lord on July 14th and know the angels were dancing!  He has been so good to me since that I praise His name publicly, something I rarely if ever did before.  Please, please, please continue to pray that SueEllen open her heart to the Holy Spirit so He can guide her.  If HER attorney can be moved enough to pray for my marriage anything with God is truly possible.  To me that was a miracle and I did not expect or suggest it.  The Lord moved on him, and I hope will work through him to guide her too.  I had prayed that the Lord bring whoever He wanted to use to bring her heart back to Him, of course hoping it would be me.  Ultimately I will be involved by continuing my witnessing, but I see it first is her attorney.  Strange but true, the Lord is truly good and mysterious!  Amen

 

Tom

 

Now for the event earlier this week which may help make sense out of the above request.  This is what I requested to begin with:

 

I have a court date tomorrow afternoon. Nothing is being finalized yet, but I need prayer during this time. I'm praying that my wife look at me and that the Holy Spirit shine through me and comfort her. The first two court dates she would not look at me and when I looked in her direction she seemed to sense it and looked down or to the other side. She would not make eye contact. I hope that is a result of the Holy Spirit working on her hard heartedness and that the work be continued. I pray that tomorrow be used as a stepping stone to reconciliation, not another stop on the road to a final divorce. Thanks.

Tom

When the hearing was over I posted this praise report:

I'm still in awe at what the Lord does and how He does it. My hearing didn't go the way I had hoped as far as my wife calling off the divorce, but this is a synopsis of what did happen that I wrote to let some other people who are praying for my marriage know about. I thought there are people who could stand to hear a little good news.

Ready for short story about a miracle? One day a newly born man walked into a courtroom with Satan all around, especially over his wife's heart. He was not able to speak directly to her, but gave a short testimony of his faith and why he didn't want a divorce in the open court. Things went well, nothing really changed except that a pretrial hearing will be scheduled for late October-early November. After the hearing was over the newly born man met with with his wife's attorney, alone.  He got confirmation that his brother-in-law had indeed got the letter and he had talked to his wife which apparently enraged her. The attorney and the man talked for a while and went out in the hall from the conference room the two had been meeting in. As they started to walk away the attorney said, no, wait and led the way back into the room and closed the door. He said, "Let's do something here. Let's pray." And he proceeded to say a very eloquent prayer to the Lord that He restore this marriage!

No, I'm not making this up! This happened at about 3:15 pm CST in the downtown St. Paul, MN courthouse.

Tom
 
This is one of the responses I received.  Pretty amazing, I still feel the warmth He was sending me!
 
Hello Tom,
    I found the online prayer chain board today.  As I read your request, I prayed for your situation that very moment.  The Lord is good to those whom are faithful!
Blessings,
Erin
PS - By the way...3:15 PM CST is approximately when I bowed my head for you.  ;-)

[rj65869]

I am also new to this site. I live in Ohio. I would like to ask prayer for restoration of my marriage. My husband & I have been married for 28 yrs. For the last year and a half he has been accusing me of cheating on him. I am faithful to him. He has been suspended from his job for the last two months because he failed a drug test. I believe in our Lord & Savior Jesus Christ and I know he will not give me more than I can handle. My husband profess to be a christian but he has not been to church in approx 5 weeks and  he is not the man I married 28 yrs ago. I feel like this is emotional abuse. I know I made a COVENANT before God to death do us part. I want to stay married but I have been thinking about a legal separation. I am so confused.  God Bless!

[Vanesssa_girl]

Tom~
   Thank you so much for your post.  It was truly an inspiration.  i myself am in the same situation.  Me and my husband have been married for a year on Nov 12th.  We had been together for 5 years to the day when we got married.  We were 15 and 16 when we got together.  We are seperated.  He was partying with friends alot and hanging out with another girl and lying all the time.  Finally, we got into a physical fight and I moved out.  I want so badly for us to be together again.  What good came from this is: I finally got right with the Lord again.  He used to be active as a Chrisitan.  We both went wayward.  But now I am on the right track and can't wait for him to be.  I know that the Lord is working on him though.  I have been very faithful that the Lord would bring us together.  I thought I was strong, but then Satan would come and knock me down be it in the form of bad news about my Bill (my husband) or giving in to smoking and taking Xanax.  I thought I had surrendered but then God revealed to me that I haven't because I am still hanging on to taking those pills and smoking every now and then.  I know that he forgives but that means that I am not being totally faithful.  I feel like I get close to the Lord but then when I smoke or take a pill, I feel like I started all over again.  But now I think I can let go of that.  It is hard though.  I need prayer for trusting the Lord and comfort.  I need to stop looking to other things and SOLELY lean on him.  Please pray that my husbands heart would be softened and that the Holy Spirit would speak to his heart.  Pray that godly Christian's would enter his life to help heal him and shine the light on him.  With the Lord anything is possible.  Sometimes I feel hopeless.  It's a tough battle.  We have been seperated since the day after my birthday.  My birthday was on Aug. 27th.  He has alot of resentment towards me because when he hit me I called the cops and he had to go to jail.  He has since lost his job and we haven't spoken in a week.  We have kids and he doesn't even call to see how they are.  He helps me out none.  It can be so discouraging.  But please pray that the Lrod would help us both to trust and have faith in him.  I need Christian friends, too.  I won't let the Devil win this battle!!!  Please pray for me as I will continue to pray for you and SueEllen.  That was really inspiring what the Lord did for you regarding her attorney.  How miraculous is He!!!!  Thank you again friend.
                       My new friend in Christ,
                           ~Vanessa Pickett*

[foxmom]

 He said, "Let's do something here. Let's pray." And he proceeded to say a very eloquent prayer to the Lord that He restore this marriage!

No, I'm not making this up! This happened at about 3:15 pm CST in the downtown St. Paul, MN courthouse.

Tom
 
This is one of the responses I received.  Pretty amazing, I still feel the warmth He was sending me!
 
Hello Tom,
    I found the online prayer chain board today.  As I read your request, I prayed for your situation that very moment.  The Lord is good to those whom are faithful!
Blessings,
Erin
PS - By the way...3:15 PM CST is approximately when I bowed my head for you.  ;-)

wow..i am in awe! incredible! i am new to the board after years away. i belonged to this group when it first started. i was standing for my ex husband and our marriage. i continued for 4 years. i finally gave up. a year later i met a man at work and married him, we have been married for 2 years. it has been a blessed marriage in many ways. out of the blue after he and i married, my ex (2nd) came to write me email. he was now sober, fully repentant, wanted to restore our marriage. but it was too late. had i just waited a little longer...please don't give up people.
my current situation goes like this: my husband and i worked EMS together for 18 months. during that time we married, no shaking up. we have had a mess to deal with but through it all have been greatly blessed. the issues ongoing are the hostility i and my children have recieved from my husbands family. i pray over this daily. i believe this is a small problem which God will fix soon.
the biggest issue is that my first husband whom i was married to for 16 years, who left the children and i, and remarried and moved 7000 milies away, has been dragging us into court constantly for 2 years. he and his wife never win anything, indeed do not want to win custody. he makes a great deal of money and i believe this is what this is all about. they have filed many maliscious litigation charges against us that are ridiculous. but we have shown them grace, answered the allegations and kept our peace.
now we have what is supposed to be the last court hearing january 29, 2007. the issues are half of the military pension i lawfully recieved, old medical bills, past child support arreages, and homeschooling. my ex only sees the children 2-3 times a year and uses that to cause a ruckus. i encourage them to go up until recently when they did not want to. there are only 2 children left at home. one is 17 and has been badly poisoned by her father against my husband. the other is a boy of 12 who loves his stepfather dearly. i have a wonderful husband who is also an ordained pastor (we did this for our work) and came in to a messy situation and loved up on the children. we have been so very blessed but the attacks have continued to mount these past few months. i keep praying and he and i pray but i fear he is becoming bitter and i am weary and discouraged. the lawyers fees mount and the lawyer is not supportive of our homeschooling. i have done this for 12 years of all 5 of my children.
so, what i am asking for, is a or some prayer partners to agree with me, and me with them..and storm the gates of heaven. i used to have a woman who was a close friend in another state i lived in, who i prayed with constantly and we had miracles move!
my family and i live out in the middle of nowhere and there is not much nearby. i have not worked since last february. a dear friend of ours for no reason caused a stir that got me fired. i took the oppty to be home more. i have prayed for that man that God would give us grace towards him and he would repent.
we have both applied to the local fire/EMS dept in the nearby tiny village. they said they needed us and we are way overqualified, but then heard 3rd party that we were too far away..(4 miles). we would still like to be on the dept. my husband has applied to a local large dairy. if God would see fit to get him there, he would retire full time EMS as he has dne this for 18 years. he was a farmer for 20 years too and its his hearts desire to return to that. this way we could just run on the dept as volunteers. i know i am being really specific. but this is what i schooled and trained for and worked at for years and i miss it. i miss helping and caring for others. and it would not take much of our time because it is small area and volunteer.
I hope i have not given you too much to chew on. I am blessed with a wonderful husband who is best friend next to Jesus. i am gifted in the job i had, and in music and writing. i am a good teacher too. i would like God to use me as i feel very isolated. we have a small homestead with animals and i do stay busy as i can with that and we do what is referred to unschooling. (hands on life learners). i truly need a miracle here with regard to the court situation. my husband got the whole family involved with civil war group, has been there through so many crisis's and chaos and tried so very hard. my family loves him. all the kids love him. I am a good prayer warrior and will give my cell number for urgent requests. love to you all and may the Peace of God rest on you.

[blessedmother]

To Tom
 Please ,keep praying for  reconciliation and walking in faith everyday .God hears every prayer that is done for your marriage and he always answers in his timing .......
We are humans and our timing is always sometimes different but if it is hardness of her heart  I plead the blood of Jesus Christ over both you and your wife to cleanse of all hardness of heart and pray for labors of Gods work to pass onto her love of God.May the Holy Spirit come onto the both of you to guide in what God's will is this situation.I ask for the desire of her heart to be changed let that be done as is in heaven as it is on earth in Jesus Name.
May the  lord wrap his hands around both of and raise you both up to be covered by his hands. I cast any assignment that the Devil has on your marriage down in the name of Jesus .
I hope my prayer helps that other who love and worship Christ will pray for you.
God Bless you.

[KIMBERLY3670]

I lost a part of me when I divorced my spouse. I knew in my heart that I should have not done it, but I was not with GOD yet and didn't know the things I know now.
My husband lost his dad in 2002 to lung cancer. This broke his heart severly. He began drinking beer every night and became very distant. He basically died too....In 2003 my husband came to me and told me that he was having a hard time staying in love with me. He cried and told me he wished he had his dad to talk to..He was afraid that I would leave him. I asked him if he wanted to separate for awhile and he said no.....Two weeks after that he decided to leave our home. He was gone for about three weeks and then decided that he missed me. He wanted to try counseling...that was a disaster......About a month of counseling he woke up one day and told me he wanted a divorce.....He left and moved all his things out. I was devasted.....Yes I was not happy, but I know that you must do whatever it takes to make a family work.....I took my vows seriously....He left me with the two kids and a mound of bills.
He started hanging out at trashing bars and starting meeting some very "untrustworthy" people. He started drinking hard liquer and partying all the time.....I decided to divorce him after I found out that he bought roses for another "girl"....one that was 15 years younger than him.....His "buddies" told me about this and laughed when I filed the divorce on him. A year after the divorce he moved in with a younger women......it didn't work out. He told me that he wanted to give us a "real" try....He moved back in, even though I had this ill feeling in my heart (knowing it was God telling me to wait).....Things started out ok, until I started falling into his world...drinking and hanging with his buddies....I lost contact with GOD.....I started not trusting my ex again and questioning everything he was doing....After a year of his heavy drinking, bar hopping and not coming home some nights, I became very angry and kicked him out....
I still believe that God will restore my marriage.....I have the desire in my heart for my family to be together....I still fight with my flesh....I think that if I just started dating I could move on....but that doesn't feel right. I've even tried dating and it becomes a complete failure.....
I stopped talking to my ex..........Everyone thinks I am crazy for still believing in him and they think I should just give up.....but would GOD give up on me??
Sometimes I just feel like giving in and giving up......How do I deal??

[jessica]

Kimberly,
I am new to this site. Today is my first day.  I really felt lead to respond to your story. I have already lived what you are going through almost exactly.  Me and my husband now have 4 kids togther. We have been married for 15 years. 12 of those years was awful!  My husband was in a heavy metal band that he got into right after we got married.  I think the day he said, "I do", he lost his mind or somthing.  I was really not ready for marraige either, I was too young and my parents were going through a divorce at the time.  I grew up in God and in church, and I think I thought I could lead him to Christ if I just stayed.  He left me on and off so many times, even when I would be pregnant. He was so lost and his mind was being controlled by demonic forces obviously. 
When he finally came home the last time,  He was ready to make a change and go to church. He started seeking the Lord more. Granted it took some tie to really start seeing a change in him.
All through these years I still wanted the marraige. I was holding onto who he pertrayed himself to be when we dated. That was not who he really turned out to be. But I was stuck in that mind set.

This is what ended up happening......
My self esteem got lower and lower, my heart kept breaking more and more, because now he was closed up from all his guilt of the things he had done, but wouldn't ever confess, because It would kill me to know the truth of it all.
So meanwhile a friend of his in the church we had attended for about 7 years,  started calling our house, he kept intouch with us, and me and him became friends over time.
To make a long story as short as I can,  This man ended up being a (snake ) Wolf in sheeps clothing.
His kids and ours were best friends for years. And he was going through a bad marraige, one that was started out of adultry. I didn't know what he was about though at this time.

I ended up in a relationship with him that almost destroyed my marraige.
Now that me and my husband are working things out, it changed everything for me.
Once someone get into your heart, its so hard to find your way back to the marraige.

So my advice to you is, while you go through this be on your guard.

Be blessed
Jessica

[KIMBERLY3670]

Jessica,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is really hard to stand by someone who is saying and doing awful things. When I filed my divorce for a couple of days I felt great and even went to the bar my ex attended and partied about filing it....but after things started coming to light I started feeling horrible about filing the divorce. My ex wanted to continue with the divorce, he said you already spent the money....I hurt him badly (even though he is the one who said he wanted the divorce)....

I know that everything that has happened had to be. In the end we both will be better people and when God brings us back together it will be awesome!

It is just hard waiting........everyone around me (even Christian friends) tell me that I should just walk away from him....but every time I try it just feels wrong.....Everyone says you are divorced, what are you waiting for.......People don't understand me.....

Just last year (after I kicked my ex out again) I dated a guy that I went to high school with....I actually had a crush on him in high school......Things seemed great....our kids got along...we had similar interests...etc....But something inside me just didn't feel right.....I had an ill feeling about the whole relationship. One day my daughter told me something his kid had said, so I questioned him about it......It started a whole arguement.....I decided to stop seeing him at that point...A month later I found out that his divorce was not finalized....So he was basically committing adultery with me....I was horrified....I had flat out asked him if it was final and he told me yes.......The man I thought was so great ended up being a liar.....

Thank you again! God bless,
Kimberly

[jolivier5]

 Greetings to you brother Tom,

 Just to let you know through the Holy Will of our Lord Jesus Christ, I shall keep you in my prayers for the reconciliation of your marriage and for other brothers as well. Let's continue, in a blessed brotherhood unity praying for each other. God bless you. Sincerely,
         brother Joél

[jessica]

Jessica,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It is really hard to stand by someone who is saying and doing awful things. When I filed my divorce for a couple of days I felt great and even went to the bar my ex attended and partied about filing it....but after things started coming to light I started feeling horrible about filing the divorce. My ex wanted to continue with the divorce, he said you already spent the money....I hurt him badly (even though he is the one who said he wanted the divorce)....

I know that everything that has happened had to be. In the end we both will be better people and when God brings us back together it will be awesome!

It is just hard waiting........everyone around me (even Christian friends) tell me that I should just walk away from him....but every time I try it just feels wrong.....Everyone says you are divorced, what are you waiting for.......People don't understand me.....

Just last year (after I kicked my ex out again) I dated a guy that I went to high school with....I actually had a crush on him in high school......Things seemed great....our kids got along...we had similar interests...etc....But something inside me just didn't feel right.....I had an ill feeling about the whole relationship. One day my daughter told me something his kid had said, so I questioned him about it......It started a whole arguement.....I decided to stop seeing him at that point...A month later I found out that his divorce was not finalized....So he was basically committing adultery with me....I was horrified....I had flat out asked him if it was final and he told me yes.......The man I thought was so great ended up being a liar.....

Thank you again! God bless,
Kimberly

Kimberly,

Sounds like we have more in common than I thought.
Its so painful finding out you've been lied to, after you've already been through so much.
It has taken me a long time to be ok after the affair. 
I let my heart fall so hard for this man, and was glad that I was finally going to be over my husband.
But the man I thought I was inlove with, was just a player.  There are so many of them out there.
They are even in the church. 
God wants us to fill our void with him, and to trust him with our lives.
He will give us the desires of our hearts as we follow him and seek his face.
I realized I really didn't know what the desires of my heart were outside of God.
The fog was so thick, All I saw was my broken heart hurting inside me.
I think  the enemy stills try to make me feel defeated at times.  I'll be ok one day and then all the sudden
I get hit with condemnation, guilt, regret, saddness, etc.
These moments I have to really fight AND HANG ON FOR DEAR LIFE.  But each time it gets a little easier  step by step,
new day by each new day.
I'll keep you lifted in prayer as I know the same dark hollow place your walking through.
Hand your husband over to God, and pray for him. Thats really all you can do.
Meanwhile, It would be wise not to jump into the (single realm of dating) 
Don't build a road of regret like I did.  Focus on your children at this time, they so need you right now.
I look back and wish that I didn't stay so torn up all those years, that it stoled memories away from them.

We have a purpose here, and its not to let men steal who we are, and keep us defeated,  Everything we go through, is teaching us who we will be on the other side of it all, and that we are going to help others.
I know you already know all this that I am saying, we just have to keep telling ourselves this truth.

God Bless, I hope you have a great day today!

Jessica